This one goes out to the homeschool haters. You know who you are. You've asked (more that once) if I'm sure I've made "the best decision" for my child. Or maybe you've started posting "funny" jokes about how weird homeschooling is - or you’ve shared links to articles bashing homeschooling, adding a "just sayin" comment, as if you have some skin in the game – some reason to feel so strongly about homeschooling either way.
And I’ve realized you do.
So now I’m ‘just sayin’ something in response, because it’s time someone did.
This weird, mean-spirited tendency some moms have (typically it's moms) to slam homeschoolers is spreading as fast as homeschooling itself. These ladies are "worried" about the socialization, academic achievement, and the hidden abuse that could potentially happen. And they also worry about tsunamis and any number of other things that really shouldn’t concern them.
And although these harpies have done absolutely ZERO research into what homeschooling actually is (or else they'd know their concerns are unfounded and I wouldn't be writing this), they're very opinionated on the topic. Very aggressive.
So now I’m encouraging homeschooling parents to ask THEM some questions.
But no, I do NOT encourage you to ask the obvious question, which is: Why are they so worried about someone else's child(ren) suffering some horrible, fictional scenarios their paranoid minds have manufactured? (That’s kind of creepy, right?) We won’t ask that because it comes off as defensive and there’s really no reason to be.
The questions I encourage you to ask come from a place of concern. For their children. And PLEASE, please – be sure to demonstrate the appropriate shock, sadness and disbelief in both tone and body language, as these ‘traditional school’ kids are suffering - and their befuddled parents likely are as well. Poor things. Be their voice.
Before any “classroom” parent attempts to tell me off – I’m not saying great schools and great teachers don’t exist. I’m sure many do. I know a few myself. And many kids excel in these schools – they excel academically, socially and emotionally. JUST LIKE MANY HOMESCHOOL KIDS excel academically, socially and emotionally at home.
See what I did there?
The questions above are intentionally offensive, out-of-line, and unnecessary.
Are you, non-homeschooler, an idiot with little to no understanding of what’s best for your child? Are you someone so detached from reality, so self-involved in your quest for societal acceptance, or so hell bent on creating the best little mini-me possible, that you can’t see how much harm you’re doing?
Of course not. And neither are homeschooling parents. So enough with the misplaced rage. Go find a tsumani to battle, supermoms.
And finally – do homeschoolers think their kids are somehow ‘better’? Seriously?! Do I think MY child is more fantastic than yours? Absolutely! And 'you' could be someone who homeschools or 'traditional' schools. My kid is the bees knees. Don’t you feel the same about your own child?
Every child has something (or many things) wonderfully fantastic about them and if celebrating my homeschooled child’s successes offends you or makes you think it’s about your child somehow - that’s on you.
And now these questions are too.